Saturday, 19 September 2009

The Need to Procreate


I adore my little boy.  He has just turned 8 and I simply can't imagine what my life would be without him.  I never for one moment thought that I could have this all encompassing love for another human being, I simply didn't think I had had the capability.  I'm sure to other parents this isn't news, but I wonder if other parents can felt the same way about kids as I did pre Dude?

I started pondering this recently, you see, my baby sister and her husband have been trying for a long time for a family, they're currently going through all sorts of tests to establish why it isn't happening.  My older sister went through the same.  My older sister now has 2 beautiful girls, but went through all sorts of emotions prior to becoming pregnant, she so desperately wanted kids.  My younger sister is now in the same boat, it's worse for her though, as 2 of us are already Mums.

The thing is, I can't imagine feeling like that.  My pregnancy wasn't planned, I didn't even particularly like kids, I didn't automatically love my neices (which I thought I should) and quite honestly found babies rather boring and children noisy and a pain in the arse.  I never ever felt that I would only be complete if I give birth or that I wouldn't be a real woman without a baby.  If I'm perfectly honest if I had never had my son, I don't think I would have felt I was missing out on anything.  I just didn't have that yearning to be a Mum.

If I had done as Dude's father told me and had a termination, I would be financially much better off, able to go out more, have holidays, more handbags etc, but if I was given the option now, knowing what I know, would I have had the termination?

Not a chance!  I would rather be skint and go without material things than be without my little Robbie Dude, the love and laughs that come from him are worth far more than anything money can buy.

Don't get me wrong here, just because I adore my son, I don't want any more!